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This month, I'm taking a look in the rearview mirror at 2018 and a peek ahead at the road ahead in 2019. I invite you to hop in and take some time to reflect on and forecast on your own life alongside me! 2 steps forward, 1 step back We're closing in on the two-year anniversary of the 2017 Women's March on Washington, and I've been considering what has changed—and what hasn't—for me as a woman i...
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My relationship with what?

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This month, I'm taking a look in the rearview mirror at 2018 and a peek ahead at the road ahead in 2019. I invite you to hop in and take some time to reflect on and forecast on your own life alongside me! One of the standard introductory exercises for Integrative Nutrition® clients, the Circle of Life is a jumping off point for discussing primary foods and goal setting—many other coaching progr...
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Come up to the lab…

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If your mind immediately filled in that blank with "and see what's on the slab," you're proof that campy movies never die. THAT one has been entertaining college students since I was 10 years old. And what place, you might be thinking, does The Rocky Horror Picture Show have in a blog post on health, especially a post that ought to be focusing on either how to create a healthy Thanksgiving meal...
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Every board of directors has one….

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"Dressed in a navy suit, Dr. Blasey Ford maintained her composure throughout the hearing...." Oh yeah, here we go again. Really, New York Times?!? Let's ignore the fact that Dr. Blasey Ford's suit has exactly zero to do with the content of the hearings and less than zero with what the takeaways are. (Unless we're in the fashion industry? Unless we get a description of what the nominee was...
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Velcro + Teflon | What’s new + good?

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Like many health coaches, I offer a free initial consultation—I call mine a YOURstory session (like HIStory, but we live in a world where "gendering" has become a frowned-upon practice, so....) In this session, in which we explore your health history from a holistic perspective, the first question I ask—"What's new and good?"—often causes some surprise, and it's really meant to put you in a mor...
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Who are your VEEPs?

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Uh oh—am I really going to stray into politics on a health coaching blog? No, not entirely, but with the news focusing so much on the administration's attempt to rid the country of illegal immigrants and people starting to drop incendiary terms like "cleansing," I got to thinking about the concept on a more micro level. Cleanses and detoxes and decluttering are hot topics these days—and as t...
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I’ll have what she’s having…

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If you're about my age and you've seen When Harry Met Sally, there's at least one line that people of our generation all know: I'll have what she's having. It seems like every generation has a line or two like that, and even when we hear them out of context, it still makes us laugh. As a coach, I support women in their 40s and beyond in navigating the next stage of their lives with good heal...
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Pet Lessons

Is it really possible that Spring has sprung in Michigan finally? This past winter really felt endless—more so than others for some reason. And yet, thanks to a new furbaby we acquired in October, I have spent at least an hour (sometimes two) outdoors every day. I joke that Kermit and I are even more reliable than the US Postal Service, whose unofficial creed—adapted from a poem and carved i...
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Happy Mother’s Day (just say no)

Ahhh, Spring. We wait for it with longing, especially here in Michigan, where it comes quite late and often teases us for a while before committing. And then, just as there's a huge wind storm every Fall that strips off the last leaves (along with a lot of branches), every Spring there's a day of downpours after which everything bursts into bloom (and the worms litter the pavement). That's n...
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Breakdown on the 110

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If you follow me on social media, you'll know that I was recently featured in an interview on my friend Audrey Groeschel's Women are Journey podcast—you can check it out on your favorite podcast app or catch it on Audrey's website. (I'm episode 16, and I want to encourage you to listen to all of the episodes—including the interviews, which are subtitled "The Story of the Shift," and the solo episo...
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Do your own (!@#$%) dishes!

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Why...was it always my responsibility to turn on the stove and begin to think about my family's food needs, even when I wasn't hungry? Why couldn't my husband get the dinner preparations started? Why did my family seem to be almost totally paralyzed when it came to preparing a meal? Why did they all wait in the kitchen, as though unable to set the table or pour a glass of water, until I came into ...
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Joint pain | On diet, physical therapy, and woo

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In response to my question about curve balls two weeks ago, Susan wrote, "I had pinching pain in my left hip which turned out to be early onset arthritis. At 42. I now understand, through physical therapy, how to stretch that joint and keep the pain somewhat at bay … however I was very surprised my body suddenly had pain moving in ways that used to be normal." Oh yeah, I thought. I had just sch...
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I can still get 3 hours….

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I'm one of those lucky people, blessed with the ability to fall asleep just about anywhere, anytime, even during a bus or train commute (yeah, sleeping on the Red Line in Chicago was probably not quite as safe as on the Boulder–Denver commuter bus). My husband says that it only adds insult to injury that I can also wake up without an alarm, whether it's exactly in time to get up for my daily 4a...
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SOUL food | Loving

This is the final post in the SOUL food series—you can find the first one at SOUL food | Seasonal, the second at SOUL food | Organic, and the third at SOUL food | Unique. Relationships are one of the most important primary foods in our lives, and we rarely (if ever) think about our relationship with ourselves as one of them—and so it is perhaps the one we rarely tend to. I'm a podcast junkie...
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Why should I clear my (virtual) plate?

I recently had the honor of interviewing the lovely Dr. Fiona Lovely of the Not Your Mother's Menopause podcast and Facebook community. We talked a lot about bringing peace to busy women in what can be a stressful time in our lives, and we took a crack at making hormones make sense! You can listen to the interview here: please note that there is a lead of about 1:15 before the recording beg...
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SOUL food | Unique

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This is the third post in the SOUL food series—you can find the first one at SOUL food | Seasonal and the second at SOUL food | Organic. Integrative Nutrition® upholds that we are all bio-individual: what is food for me might be poison for you; what nourishes me might toxify you. This is true not only for the food we put in our mouths but for all the primary foods that nourish us (or don't), an...
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My cat got eaten by a coyote…

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As a "wellpreneur" who works with clients online and by phone/Skype as well as in person, I spend a fair amount of time marketing my services online, mostly through my own website and on social media platforms. I'm not an early adopter of social media, and Snapchat—which I have because my kids like to use it—still confuses the heck out of me. But I check in regularly on Facebook (which, I was d...
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How do you come to the kitchen?

As I mentioned last week, explaining what I do as a health coach can be difficult: while the profession is certainly growing, it's still an alien concept for many. I often like to explain my work using stories, which seem to make more sense than a lot of theory and explanation, so for the rest of this month, it's story time! The second story I tell is titled, "How do you come to the kitchen?...
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Happy Labor Day, Happy Birth-day

Labor Day weekend has come to represent a lot more than just a moment to honor the labor movement in the United States, so much so that we don't often pause to remember that's what the holiday is really about: a celebration of the victories achieved by organized labor in the late 19th century, many of which we take for granted—eight-hour work days, 5-day work weeks, restrictions on child labor, sa...
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A half-empty nest

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I've recently been going through an experience that in an odd way reminds me of what my daughter went through most of last year: encountering the inevitable questions. For her, it was "Where are you applying, and what are you going to study?" (And yes, I did my fair share of asking other teens I know despite the fact that I know a lot of them hate it.) For me, it's "When does K leave for col...
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A way forward | Getting past nonstarters

I mentioned a few weeks ago that at my house, we're going through a Hamilton phase, and I can't help but view the current debates about health care as just one example of how little has changed in politics: [HAMILTON] James Madison won’t talk to me, that’s a nonstarter. [WASHINGTON] Winning was easy, young man. Governing’s harder. [HAMILTON] They’re being intransigent. [WASHINGTON] You h...
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Dear Wonder Woman…

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Have you seen Wonder Woman yet? It’s definitely been a hot topic of conversation at my house this summer, and it’s getting rave reviews from a lot of critics. My own impression was that this movie made sense and was extremely enjoyable even as someone who did not grow up on comic books or TV shows based on them—something previous superhero movies have utterly failed to do for me. The name “W...
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Mind. Blown.

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Time for a shout-out to all the guys: Happy Father's Day! Thank you to all the dads, dads-to-be, stepdads, grandfathers, foster fathers, AND all those who father and mentor us. Recently, in getting ready to issue an invitation to women, I went through the process of "segmenting" my email list—dividing it into different groups so that I can make my message relevant to each group. I was pleasa...
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Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride

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Yay—another fun guest blogger! Today, I’m happy to share a great reminder with you from my friend Cheryl Meyer, who is going to let you in on a deep, dark health coach secret: Yes, we are health coaches…and yes, we still need to coach ourselves. All. The. Time. But I'll let Cheryl tell it.... Two weeks ago, I headed to a retreat at Mago Sedona Center to replenish my soul and take a break from m...
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Multitasking | To hack or not to hack?

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If you've been following me for a while, you know I'm a big fan of podcasts—I listen to a fair number of self-improvement, health, and entrepreneur/business related ones, and my all-time favorite for "general consumption" is definitely Jonathan Fields's Good Life Project. If you haven't listened yet, check it out for a weekly dose of inspiration. After commenting on words from our own field tha...
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Finding your tribe | Are you my people?

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A business coach I work with recently posted a question on her Facebook page, asking what word is so overused in our respective industries that we might just scream the next time we hear it. This generated a lot of answers and no small amount of hilarity: robust, mindfulness, intention, resonate, alignment, stuck, leverage, impactful, synergy, takeaway, mirror (ha—yes, you'll recognize some of my ...
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Do less better.

Today marks the beginning of a series of workshops my collaborator, Holly Southerland, and I are calling Month of Margin. The goal of the workshops is to help women create margin in their external and internal environments by a three-step process of decluttering, organizing, and improving efficiency. What is "margin?" Richard Swenson explains it mathematically as Margin = Power - Load. That's s...
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Are you cancelable?

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When I was being certified as a health coach, I live-streamed the Institute for Integrative Nutrition's live events, which are weekend long extravaganzas of top speakers from the world of health and wellness. Once, I was surprised to see that one of the speakers lined up for the day was Arianna Huffington of Huffington Post fame. What could she possibly have to say about health and wellness? It...
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Are you reacting or responding?

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What do a rotisserie chicken and a kitchen sink have in common? It's been an interesting week for me—I don't know whether it's been a phase of the moon or some other sort of joke on the part of the Universe, but practically every day this week I faced a situation in which I had to work very hard to remind myself that what was required was a thoughtful response, not a knee-jerk reaction: there w...
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What’s in your banker’s box?

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Last fall, my brother and I spent a weekend in Colorado sifting through the piles of paperwork left by my late uncle—we were on the hunt for 1 specific document, and while we were successful in our search, we also came across three rooms full of papers and other clutter. And that's not counting the basement. Apparently, he never threw out a single piece of mail—not a single one—from the late 1960s...
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[Not so] secret sisterhoods

More than 2 million people reportedly participated in more than 670 marches in DC, across the country, and around the world yesterday. While not all the marchers were women—shout out to all the men who donned pink and joined in!—it was most likely the largest public display of sisterhood in my life so far. We came with our pink hats, our posters, and our pride, and we marched for a variety of r...
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Fill Your Plate | Feed Your Life

One of the fundamental principles of Integrative Nutrition® health coaching is that we are not only nourished (or toxified) by the food we put in our mouths—our secondary foods; we are equally (perhaps even more so) nourished or toxified by our primary foods: the relationships, work, physical activity, spiritual practice, sleep habits, etc. that we choose to embrace. I love the work of Gene...
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Q + A with Su Hansen | Where does your soul want to go?

As a health coach, I love meeting colleagues who not only can serve as a resource for my clients but also challenge and inspire me in my own work. Personal and spiritual guide Su Hansen is just such a person, whether she's talking about the Enneagram, her move from traditional therapy to the role of a guide, or why people in relationships should treat each other like foreign exchange students! I h...
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Self-care + Happy Stockholders!

I wrote this for a wonderful networking group I am privileged to belong to—if you're an entrepreneur looking for a facilitated referral team, check out Caerusnet (and if there isn't one in your area, you can be trained as a facilitator and start your own)! Although the post is written for entrepreneurs, it's just as relevant for those of us who are overscheduled professionals, parents, employees.....
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Eat Drink Man Woman | Of kitchens, frog farming, video games, and upset cards

Long before he really made a splash as the director of blockbusters such as Crouching Tiger, Hidden Dragon and Brokeback Mountain, Ang Lee made two of my all-time favorite food movies, Eat Drink Man Woman and The Wedding Banquet.  If you plan to check them out, make sure you have LOTS of good Chinese food on hand. Sorry, takeout won't really cut it, but you can find some simple recipes for heal...
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Baby Step #8 | I get to…

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This is the eighth of a 12-part series titled “Baby Steps.” On the first of each month, I post 1 tiny step toward better health that you can take every day for that month – practically without trying. Soon, that tiny step will be part of your daily routine, and you won’t even remember you never did it before. The next month, add the next baby step. By the end of 2016, you’ll have accumulated 12 ne...
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Baby Step #6 | For not to

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This is the sixth of a 12-part series titled “Baby Steps.” On the first of each month, I post 1 tiny step toward better health that you can take every day for that month – practically without trying. Soon, that tiny step will be part of your daily routine, and you won’t even remember you never did it before. The next month, add the next baby step. By the end of 2016, you’ll have accumulated 12 new...
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15 Ways to Make Life Simple Again

“It’s complicated….” Just about everything feels complicated these days, … and there’s a great excuse for not taking action, which causes us even more (di)stress. How to make life simple The greatest gift we can give ourselves when we start to feel this paralysis is determine what we can exert some control over and what we have no control over – because stressing about the latter is t...
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Everyday Power Blog | Five things to (not) do first thing in the morning

How do you feel about mornings? Yes, please – the earlier, the better! Meh – I can survive them when I have to. Please don’t make me morning. If you talk to me, I will kill you. If you answered “1,” then save yourself some time and skip this post. I know you – you rise with (before?) the sun without an alarm, you smile before you get out of bed, you’re at the gym door when it open...
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“But I’m not the cook…” | Supper + Support

When I was studying at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, I often envied my single, childless classmates: as we were introduced to a large number of dietary theories - from veganism to the meat-centric Atkins plan, from high carb to low carb, from high-protein to low protein, etc. - the institute's staff frequently reminded us that no one theory was right for everyone and that we should expe...
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Health is a journey – be sure to carry a map!

Before I work with a client, we have what I call a YOURstory session (like a history, but a little less gendered and a bit more personal!), an opportunity to reflect on their health - past, present, and future. One question I ask during this session seems to throw a lot of people: "At what point in your life did you feel best, and why do you think that is/was so?" For some, it's difficult because...
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What media messages do you ingest?

As an integrative nutrition health coach, I spend a lot of time working with clients to identify their ideal nutritional choices - the ones that nourish their bodies in a way that helps them reach their physical health goals, whether it's weight loss or getting some numbers in a better place. But we probably spend even more time working on their lifestyle choices - how to get an adequate amount o...
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How do you come to the table?

I’ve been thinking a lot about the idea that we show up at the table much the way we show up in the rest of our lives, and it is nowhere more evident than when I watch my kids eat. While both are good (i.e., not excessively picky) eaters compared to most of their peers, they definitely have their preferences, likes, and dislikes. One approaches new foods with an enthusiastic attitude: “I’ll try ...
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On the edge of getting it right

I have an 11-year-old son and a husband, so (if you'll forgive a generalization) I watch a fair number of action movies. Okay, full disclosure: I kind of like them, too, and we've found that if there is a decent plot and a handsome male lead, even our 15-year-old daughter will watch them. Hey, as the teenager says, don't judge - it's not easy to find a movie that suits everyone's taste! Last nigh...
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What my father left me

A love of language... The legacy of Russian for Everybody (the version for Americans): I'm always amazed when I meet people who studied Russian in the 1970s - 1990s: without exception, they used his book, and they always exclaim, "You're HIS daughter?!?" ...and a passion for truly awful puns There was one about transporting gulls across state lines for immoral porpoises, and another one about t...
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Letters from camp

Our son, who just turned 11, was born two months early - luckily, he avoided many of the "insults of prematurity" (what an odd phrase that is!) and suffered mainly from bouts of asthma, which he has since outgrown. The effect on his parents, however, has been longer-lasting. We have struggled for years with our (in)ability to allow him space to try activities in which he might just get injur...
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Learning to speak a new (love) language

I recently finished reading Gary Chapman's The 5 Love Languages, a book that is delightful in its simplicity and yet has the potential to be profoundly life-changing. (And as a former language instructor, I immediately appreciated his concept!) Chapman's premise about creating "love that lasts" is that every one of us speaks one of five basic love "languages" - Words of Affirmation, Quality Time,...
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Unplugged…on vacation in Montague, MI

Last weekend, my kids and I spent 24 hours "unplugged" at a fellow IIN student's lakeside cottage in Montague, MI. (Our kids were initially a bit weirded out by the fact that two "total strangers" would have the adult equivalent of a playdate/sleepover, but even they eventually admitted, "It wasn't as awkward as I thought it'd be....") For me, it was 24 hours of radical self-care: what a luxury...
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Rewrite the script

Have you ever listened to your personal script? The one that dictates how every situation will play out because that’s what always happens? The one that spills out in words and makes sure that the situation plays out the way it’s supposed to? The one you’re so very, very tired of because it just makes you … more tired? Parenting a 10-year-old and a teenager involves many such scenes, each one usu...
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