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This month, I'm taking a look in the rearview mirror at 2018 and a peek ahead at the road ahead in 2019. I invite you to hop in and take some time to reflect on and forecast on your own life alongside me! 2 steps forward, 1 step back We're closing in on the two-year anniversary of the 2017 Women's March on Washington, and I've been considering what has changed—and what hasn't—for me as a woman i...
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Own the Crone

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the end of the human race Just before the mid-term voting took place, I listened to a podcast in which Carol Cox discusses a TEDx talk she gave just before the 2016 election about why we (men and women) fear women in positions of power—from C suites to Board Rooms to elected political positions. Cox's theory is that both genders—and if you accept the idea that gender is really a spectrum and n...
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Reclaim your flame

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The clubhouse doors are open at the (Sorta) Secret Sisterhood online membership site, and last week, I had the honor and pleasure of interviewing Tania Elfersy of The Wiser Woman on a Zoom call with our members. We covered a lot of ground on the call—from the Roman empire to the present day, from feminism to mindfulness to unicorn cupcakes! What really resonates with me in talking with Tania...
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Who are you comparing yourself to?

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I recently walked the Dexter Ann Arbor 5K in 40:49 (beating last year's 52:12 by a long shot despite the pouring rain)—I had meant to run this year, but some troublesome arthritis got in the way. Afterwards, I asked a much younger colleague how she'd done, and she said, vaguely, "Oh, really well—much better than I'd hoped!" Later, I found out that she'd placed 2nd in the 25- to 29-year-old w...
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Everybody poops…

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When I was studying to become a health coach, one of my favorite lectures was titled, "Does Your Poop Float?" I wish I could remember the lecturer's name, but it has escaped me. I just remember listening to it in the car with my then 8-year-old son, who actually asked me to play it again on a later trip. Because boys and scatology. One of my favorite podcasts is Healthy View Radio, hosted by th...
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I’ll have what she’s having…

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If you're about my age and you've seen When Harry Met Sally, there's at least one line that people of our generation all know: I'll have what she's having. It seems like every generation has a line or two like that, and even when we hear them out of context, it still makes us laugh. As a coach, I support women in their 40s and beyond in navigating the next stage of their lives with good heal...
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Normal vs. common | Learning in the loud moms’ corner

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I'm not much of a gym fan—I've flirted with them before, even had (always brief) love affairs with them, but I always return to working out at and from home. When we lived in California, it was easy to get enough exercise outdoors year round. When we moved to Michigan (before we had Kermit the Dog and the kids were younger), it got a bit more difficult. I needed to move more, my daughter was...
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Are you in the (Sorta) Secret Sisterhood?

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Let's take a look at the business side of health coaching for a minute. As a business owner, I spend a fair amount of time networking, and in networking groups—as in business—it's vital to know who your "target market" is and to narrow your focus—your "niche"—down to a very specific group of people whom you serve. There are entire books written about the topic, whole classes and webinars dev...
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High anxiety (in the dentist’s chair)

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I usually try to avoid the word "hate"—there's enough hate in the world already, no need to add to the bad energy. Yeah, I'm the one on social media who really, really tries to promote what I love rather than gripe about what I ... um ... don't love. But I'm just gonna say it: I hate going to the dentist. Nothing makes me more nauseous than the idea of sitting in that chair. Nothing. Well, o...
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Whine + cheese | What’s the payoff?

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Very often, when I encounter a deeply-entrenched, clearly unhealthy habit in a client, I get curious about the payoff: every habit, according to research in this area, brings with it a reward, a hit of pleasure hormones. That's ridiculous, you might think. What possible payoff is there in a habit that doesn't support your health? Well, I guess you could ask any smoker that question.... Havin...
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The secret’s out….

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Last night at the dinner table, my son asked how long it's been since the new Administration has been in the White House. More than a year, I said, thinking back to the Women's March in January 2017.... Based on a lot of conversations I've had with women over the past year—and even further back—I'm going to generalize and say that two themes stand out: Women are creatures of community—whet...
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White jeans … and apples and pears

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I lurk on a lot of Facebook pages and sites that claim to support us women over 40. I say "lurk" because I stopped posting comments and questions when I realized that the energy of these groups is almost without exception toxic. They are possibly the best example of the expression "Misery loves company." What are the advantages to being a woman at midlife? Ask that question and you're likely...
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Breakdown on the 110

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If you follow me on social media, you'll know that I was recently featured in an interview on my friend Audrey Groeschel's Women are Journey podcast—you can check it out on your favorite podcast app or catch it on Audrey's website. (I'm episode 16, and I want to encourage you to listen to all of the episodes—including the interviews, which are subtitled "The Story of the Shift," and the solo episo...
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Do your own (!@#$%) dishes!

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Why...was it always my responsibility to turn on the stove and begin to think about my family's food needs, even when I wasn't hungry? Why couldn't my husband get the dinner preparations started? Why did my family seem to be almost totally paralyzed when it came to preparing a meal? Why did they all wait in the kitchen, as though unable to set the table or pour a glass of water, until I came into ...
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Joint pain | On diet, physical therapy, and woo

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In response to my question about curve balls two weeks ago, Susan wrote, "I had pinching pain in my left hip which turned out to be early onset arthritis. At 42. I now understand, through physical therapy, how to stretch that joint and keep the pain somewhat at bay … however I was very surprised my body suddenly had pain moving in ways that used to be normal." Oh yeah, I thought. I had just sch...
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I can still get 3 hours….

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I'm one of those lucky people, blessed with the ability to fall asleep just about anywhere, anytime, even during a bus or train commute (yeah, sleeping on the Red Line in Chicago was probably not quite as safe as on the Boulder–Denver commuter bus). My husband says that it only adds insult to injury that I can also wake up without an alarm, whether it's exactly in time to get up for my daily 4a...
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My own personal summer

Sooo much wisdom (and a fair bit of humor!) in last week's conversation on the blog in response to my question about what (if any) curve ball/s your body suddenly sent your way when you turned 40ish? In this week's post, I'm going to poke a little bit at what Audrey described in her answer as "my Goddess, the hot flashes!" (BTW, check out Audrey's cool podcast, Women Are the Journey!) I clea...
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“Can we tawk?”

I once introduced myself in a networking group by saying that I support women who believe the only way out of their overwhelm involves a plane ticket, a wad of cash, and a change of identity. All the women in the room laughed and/or cheered; most of the men looked at me blankly. The more I work with women my age (I just hit 53), the more I realize how rarely we have productive conversations—wit...
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Why should I clear my (virtual) plate?

I recently had the honor of interviewing the lovely Dr. Fiona Lovely of the Not Your Mother's Menopause podcast and Facebook community. We talked a lot about bringing peace to busy women in what can be a stressful time in our lives, and we took a crack at making hormones make sense! You can listen to the interview here: please note that there is a lead of about 1:15 before the recording beg...
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SOUL food | Seasonal

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As I mentioned at the end of last year, my focus has been shifting from helping clients with their SOLE foods—the seasonal, organic, local, and ethical foods that I recommend underpin your eating choices, no matter where you fall on the spectrum between vegan and omnivore—to supporting them in the area of SOUL foods—all the other parts of our lives that nourish us...or don't. If you want to try...
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SOLE food | SOUL food

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At the end of 2016, I shifted my health coaching practice from focusing almost entirely on secondary foods—what we put in our mouths—to primary foods—everything else in our lives that nourishes us (or doesn't). I also set a goal of blogging once a week rather than once a month (or so) and sending my post out by email to my list. It's been a year since then, and I'm happy to report I am one week...
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If it ain’t broke, reframe it

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Occasionally, I need to disappear from my health coaching practice due to the demands that my side hustle as a grants consultant places on my schedule. Late November and early December were such a period, but it's not been time lost: I've been keeping my eyes and ears open for media coverage of the topic that many of my clients are dealing with. Since late November, I've been following the to-d...
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Do you really need another blender?

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My biz bestie, Holly Southerland of Waco Home Organizers, recently sent a note of encouragement to her email list about FOMO (fear of missing out) and doing a "digital detox" by unsubscribing from email lists and unfollowing on social media. You might laugh at her description of how we end up with three blenders—and you might just shed a secret tear because, um, you have three blenders yourself...
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Happy Labor Day, Happy Birth-day

Labor Day weekend has come to represent a lot more than just a moment to honor the labor movement in the United States, so much so that we don't often pause to remember that's what the holiday is really about: a celebration of the victories achieved by organized labor in the late 19th century, many of which we take for granted—eight-hour work days, 5-day work weeks, restrictions on child labor, sa...
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Guest Post | Gyro-whattt?

As a health coach and Membership Coordinator for the Women Business Owners of Southeastern Michigan, I do a fair amount of networking, and I get to meet a lot of cool women. This month, I was thrilled to meet Ruth Wade—she'll tell you about herself below—and because Ann Arbor is really a small town pretending to be a city, it turns out that we work in the same building downtown! I invited Ruth to ...
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A summer of firsts and lasts

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This is turning into a summer of "lasts" at our house: one child's last summer before college and last day of work at a job held for three years already, the other's last summer before high school and last summer at camp. Each moment with them feels more precious as they hurtle toward independence. Perhaps because these "lasts" feel like such major seismic shifts, I also find there are new spac...
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Mr. Toad’s Wild Ride

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Yay—another fun guest blogger! Today, I’m happy to share a great reminder with you from my friend Cheryl Meyer, who is going to let you in on a deep, dark health coach secret: Yes, we are health coaches…and yes, we still need to coach ourselves. All. The. Time. But I'll let Cheryl tell it.... Two weeks ago, I headed to a retreat at Mago Sedona Center to replenish my soul and take a break from m...
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Life: rewind, fast forward, or play?

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Have you ever noticed how when you're paying attention, you see "coincidences" everywhere? Last week, I had two acquaintances, both of whom have colored their hair for years, start conversations about how they were considering letting their hair go gray. It is a momentous, agonizing decision for them. Full disclosure: I went gray at 35 and never even considered coloring—maybe because I'm too ch...
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