I once introduced myself in a networking group by saying that I support women who believe the only way out of their overwhelm involves a plane ticket, a wad of cash, and a change of identity. All the women in the room laughed and/or cheered; most of the men looked at me blankly.
The more I work with women my age (I just hit 53), the more I realize how rarely we have productive conversations—with other women and with the men in our lives—about how our bodies and our lives are changing.
Ha—yes, who’s got time for that, right?
Well, we do seem to have time for a lot of unproductive conversations on social media, where there’s a whole secret sisterhood ready to complain vociferously about the same symptoms and situations we are suddenly facing—an interminable, grueling #metoo list.
I thought I might spend the next few weeks (or longer?) at least trying to start a more constructive dialogue about what can feel like an especially difficult time in our lives—like puberty, round 2—now often referred to as peri-menopause, which often starts in our mid-to-late 40s but sometimes even earlier.
If you aren’t in the woman-over-40 demographic, I hope you’ll hang in there anyway, and here’s why:
- Older women, I invite you to contribute your own wisdom in the comments—we may just be the village someone younger is looking for.
- Younger women, I hope that by hearing about our experiences, you can in your own time breeze through this stage of life—feel free to ask questions in the comments.
- And men, I hope you can get some insight into what we go through and contribute some comparisons and contrasts from your own experiences, especially now that “manopause” is now finally being acknowledged as “a thing.”
I really do want this to be 1) a dialogue, and 2) productive.
Please join the conversation by starting or replying to threads in the comments or chiming in on Facebook or LinkedIn, where I always share my latest posts. If you’re shy, send me an email with your comment or question, and let me know whether I have your permission to share it (anonymously, of course).
the more the merrier!
For this to be a lively conversation, I’d love it if you could share this post with your “tribe”—send someone the link by text or email or share it on your social media platforms. There are some social sharing options below this post.
let’s get started.
My first question for you is: What (if any) curve ball/s did your body suddenly send your way when you turned 40ish? And if nobody responds, I’ll have to riff on my own experience….